“All of these lines across my face
Tell you the story of who I am
So many stories of where I’ve been
And how I got to where I am
But these stories don’t mean anything
When you’ve got no one to tell them to
It’s true, I was made for you”
— The Story, Brandi Carlile
Hi friend. Yes, the you Brandi is referring to is you, sweet reader on Medium. Also, I know what you’re thinking, I’m 25, how many lines do I really have on my face? The answer is enough, for now.
If I had to…
Sibling musical groups have harmonized their way into our lives for decades. From the Beegees to the Beach Boys, Creedence Clearwater Revival, The Kinks, AC/DC, Van Halen, Oasis, Radiohead, Dire Straits, The Pointer Sisters, Sister Sledge, The Corrs and the Jackson 5 — among several others — siblings have taken the stage to show us just how much music really does run in the family.
So which sibling groups are captivating us now, in this new century? As it turns out, these special genes have not yet gone extinct. Siblings are still thriving and co-creating. So really, not even a…
In the name of authenticity, we’ve gotten confused about a lot of things. Authenticity means being genuine and faithful to our true selves. It’s the true self part that confuses people. The reason it’s confusing is that most people have no idea what it is. So in the name of a so-called ‘true’ self, we enjoy shaming other non-true selves, in the hopes that that will make us feel truer.
It’s actually quite exhausting. But it happens all the time.
Aren’t we all just seeking validation? In some way or another, as Celine says in Before Sunrise, isn’t everything we…
School is a playground for overachievers. With a set of manageable goals, clear criteria, and a time frame, it’s ready, set, go for there! The overachiever will flourish in flying colors, going above and beyond the requirements. They will master the skills needed and provide the outcomes outlined. In the end, they will feel momentarily accomplished, and with little rest, will be ready for their next assignment.
Show of hands for those who can relate? I know I can.
Still, for the overachiever, it’s about more than just succeeding. It’s about exceeding expectations and standards. It’s about being your own…
Mess: a confused and disorganized chaos. Is that redundant? Probably. But it illustrates the troubling state we often find ourselves in when things get messy.
When did mess become a problem? When did it lose its joy?
For my dog, mess is necessary for optimal functioning. He flourishes in his moments of utter disarray in the mud. After a long walk or nap, the cold, fresh soil feels rejuvenating on his body. It’s particularly thrilling if he is soaking wet, when the dirt adheres better to his golden locks.
Watching him blissfully roll around in the mud makes me consider…
Reimagining travel is a prerequisite of our times. Domestic has become the new foreign with flying restrictions and the hassle and danger of roaming to far-away places.
Even city-searching has lost its joy, with shops closed and people hiding away in the safety of their homes. The strange silence of city life has replaced the buzz of city life.
Maybe that’s okay, though. Maybe it’s just the quiet that we needed. At least for a moment in time.
This new quiet begs us to explore what we thought we already knew. The routes and commutes we brush by without notice…
Music is a language, and so naturally, it deserves its place on this beautiful platform that celebrates the written word. We communicate and connect through music, and so, in honoring that, I have joined a fellow Medium writer, Nia Simone McLeod, in launching this new mini-series collaboration. Each piece will be dedicated to a song which each writer selects for the other. From there, we listen, we feel and we unpack.
My first challenge is the beautiful song “Unlearn” by Gracie Abrams and benny blanco, which Nia has chosen for me. …
“You’re stupid and naive for being too nice to people.”
“No one is going to respect you if you’re so nice all the time. They’re just going to walk all over you.”
“Suppress your joy if you actually want to be taken seriously. Protect your kindness. Be authoritative. Be skeptical. Be ready.”
Do you live by this?
All that armor is exhausting. Holding resentment, and seeing the world as a place that is inherently out to get you is a heavy burden to carry. Being distant and cold and seeing others as potential threats can make you miserable. …
I am biased, but it’s okay. I love my home country. I particularly love it as a travel destination. It is always new, and there is always a hidden oasis to find.
Portugal may be a small country, but it is embraced by a huge coastline. Somehow the vastness of the ocean makes us feel less small. And somewhere in that endless horizon, no place ever looks the same, but always feels like home.
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